Do You Believe Anything Is Possible For You?

Because I definitely did not.

For years — decades — I believed that I couldn’t have long hair. After growing it out in high school — and being told that it looked wild, frizzy, and out of control — I cut my hair shorter and shorter and shorter. For most of my time in college, I had a pixie cut.

But then last year, when everything shut down, I decided to say “fuck it.”

I let my hair grow. And I realized that I had a belief, deep down, that my hair wasn’t good enough. It wasn’t curly enough or straight enough. I didn’t have enough skill to style it like other women and girls did. My hair, in a small but important way, reflected what I thought about myself.

I’m not like everyone else.

Maybe . . . I’m not good enough.

But here’s the thing: My hair — now that I’m allowing it to just be — is amazing.

My hairstylist told me that my waves — which I can blow-dry stick straight or use product to create spiral curves — are the beachy sex hair that other women pay hundreds of dollars to mimic with expensive treatments. As it turns out, my hair is AWESOME and that belief?

Was complete and utter bullshit.