When To Give Up Your Dream of Being a Published Author

I’m going to share a personal story that applies to something I see a lot in my business.

My best friend from high school never went to college.

And not because she couldn’t get in. She applied and was accepted to the university I went to. There was only one hurdle: she needed an updated transcript from the guidance office.

She never did it.

Advocating for ourselves is scary as fuck.

Doing something different than everyone else around us is hard, because as human beings we are biologically wired to prioritize belonging.

I don’t know why my friend never went to the guidance office. I don’t know if she felt insecure about moving to a new place, or worried about being able to get the money for tuition and books. Perhaps she was experiencing an “upper limit problem” (as defined in The Big Leap) where we feel afraid to leave people behind. To this day, I don’t know if my former bestie regrets her decision, or is happy with how her life turned out.

What I do know is that sometimes, it can be the right decision to not leap.

To stop progressing forward on our dreams or what other people think we should do (even if that’s your best friend). Sometimes, we SHOULD quit.